038 | Learning a New Language
This kid. She’s a delight. It’s so fun to watch her grow and develop. I’ve read (in multiple places) that if your child is really in to something, learning enough about that thing to speak their language—or at least understand generally what they’re talking about—helps deepen connection.
One of Miss T’s favorite things right now is Pokémon Go, so I am learning the language and nuances of Pokémon. (If you are looking for a friend in Pokémon Go, DM me.) It used to be that Andrew and Miss T shared this secret language and bond, but now they’ve drawn me in.
Yesterday, our three family picked up Starbucks and visited Pokestops and Gyms. After Miss T (on Andrew’s phone) and I did a battle together, she declared “This is the best day ever!” Our three family was together, talking the same language, playing together in a way that she loves.
The “best day ever” declaration was no small thing. She is pretty quick to declare “This is the WORST day ever!” with the slightest, and often unwarranted, provocation—like asking her to participate in the most basic work of family life. Fortunately, she is resilient and rebounds quickly. But the BEST day ever? That is extremely rare and was a joy to hear.
Sometimes cultivating sanctuary in our relationships means learning a new language so our beloved feels seen, heard and valued for who they are.
What new “language(s)” have you learned as a way of loving and supporting someone you care about?
